Discussion : Relationships During Adulthood

Pair bonding is globally acknowledged as the life-long, monogamous relationship that many individuals strive to achieve.

With roots in attachment theory, pair bonding in adulthood has been viewed as following a developmental pattern similar to that which individuals experience with primary caregivers.

Fraley and Shaver (2000) noted that "adults typically feel safer and more secure when their partner is nearby, accessible, and responsive" (p. 132). A pair bond can provide a sense of security-an emotional "shelter" and safe place in which one can be vulnerable.

Pair bonding is biologically driven. Its manifestations vary widely depending on individual life experiences, expectations, and constructs about self and others.

With this in mind, think about whether you believe adult pair bonding is the same as marriage. If pair bonding is a biological, innate part of being human, why might so many marriages and relationships fail?

For this Discussion, review the Learning Resources and consider influences on and motivations for pair bonding.

Post a description of two influences on or motivations for pair bonding. Then, explain two benefits and two challenges in maintaining stable, long-term relationships in adulthood.

Be sure to include how environmental and/or socio-cultural influences impact pair bonding. Finally, explain how relationship challenges may motivate individuals to seek assistance from a counselor. Justify your response with theories from the Learning Resources and current literature.